The Tumblr couple known as Hotwifegoodlife have been living the hotwife lifestyle for about a decade now–but you’d never believe how it all started for them!
You can find out how it all started for them and more, in this exclusive interview right here on The Cuckold Consultant.
Q: How did you get started in the cuckolding/hotwifing lifestyle?
A: We started by totally fluke! We were about 20/21 years old and spent the day at the beach with our good buddy, and my wife got a bit flirty on the way home in the car. She said something that I (of course) turned into something dirty, along the lines of “so you think you could handle us both at once?!”, to which she answered – “Yes I do”. I had honestly never even thought about this scenario before that moment, and when we got to my buddy’s parents place to drop him off, he went inside and asked if we were coming before he shut the door. I asked her if she actually wanted to (totally stunned, but turned on), and she said if it was cool with me – she’d like to do it!
We went inside and I chatted briefly as well, as he wanted to make sure I was cool with it.
Once we were all on board, we both fucked her, although I did hav a little stage fright which made it tough. Lol, and she sucked both our cocks until we came!
Q: Does your wife have a long-standing lover or multiple lovers?
A: We have only ever done this with the same guy, once or twice a year over the last 15 or so years. I would like to get the frequency up and also add one of two more guys, but she is not totally comfortable with venturing out of her “comfort zone” by adding someone new.
Q: What are the 5 biggest mistakes you would say beginners could make when living out their cuckolding/hotwifing fantasies?
Not communicating between all people involved to make sure everyone knows what is acceptable & what is off limits.
Pressure. Very important to let the wife/girlfriend dictate what is allowed, and not to put too much pressure on her to stray from that. We have found a little adding ribbing can open my wife’s mind to trying something, but you need to know when to draw the line between friendly ribbing and being too pushy.
Picking the wrong guy. This has not been an issue for us, as it’s always been with a guy we know well. However, if you are adding someone new – you must first make sure that they are compatible and understand that this is ultimately for you and your wife/girlfriend.
5) Communicate some more!
Q: What advice would you have for someone if they were just getting started in the cuckolding or hotwifing lifestyle today?
A: Set your boundaries to where you are both comfortable (don’t worry, these will change as you get used to the encounters), find someone you are BOTH compatible with and can trust, and have fun!
Q: If you had it to do all over again, would you still go into the cuckolding/hotwifing lifestyle?
A: 100% Yes!! My only complaint is that we don’t do it enough! We started as a couple of 21 year olds dating, and are now mid 30s with a family, and are probably the happiest couple of all our friends.
Q: If you had to do it all over again, what would you do the same, and differently?
A: I would love to add a few more guys to the mix, do it more often, and I would definitely open the communication lines better between all of us earlier on than we did. We had a few encounters when barriers were not really set clearly, and my wife did not have a good time. We learned from that and now know the limits, but earlier on we weren’t always on the same page because of lack of communicating.
**Q: What 5 tips, tricks, or hints could you give to men out there whose wives are a little hesitant or resistant to indulging in this fantasy?**
A: 1) Build up her confidence all the time, telling her how beautiful she is & how you love seeing her happy, etc.
Make sure she know you are not the jealous type and that it even turns you on when other guys check her out. If you ARE the jealous type – don’t do it.
Feel her out by showing her some mfm porn, and you’ll get an idea of how much work you have ahead of you to get her interested.
A few drinks REALLY helps loosen things up.
Make sure she knows that safety is of the utmost importance! We are lucky that we know/trust my buddy well, and he can’t have kids, so we don’t need to use condoms which is more fun if possible. Not worth the risk though unless you meet those same criteria IMO.
**Q: Where are your go to sites for the best cuckold porn on the net?**
A: Basically just Tumblr for me!
Q: What was it like in the beginning to first have your wife take steps to making your fantasy a reality?
A: The way it happened (as I described above), I didn’t even know it was my fantasy until we did it the first time!
**Q: What’s it like being a cuckold in real life as opposed to just getting off to cuckold porn on the internet?**
A: It’s generally more hotwife scenario stuff with us so far, with myself and my buddy both fucking her, etc. However, I have watched her ride him and also him fuck her, and I nearly cum just from watching it! He is hung a little bigger than myself, and she really gets into it when fucking him. Hearing your wife tell another man to cum in her pussy, then proceeding to pull him into her as deep as possible while he does, is amazing!
I’d like to thank Hotwifegoodlife for participating in this interview, and if you haven’t already done so, take a look at their tumblr page here: Hotwifegoodlife. It has some really great content on it!