An Exclusive Interview – Meet Hotwife Nicole & Tony  5/5 (3)

Imagine getting into the minds of couple where the female is a petite, curvy, sexy, straight nearly 30 year old and the male is a “silver fox”; a couple who has an open marriage where they’ve experienced playing with others one on one, in threesomes, foursomes and moresomes. In this arrangement, the husband isn’t denied anything.

This couple is real. They keep an online blog on Tumblr (which can be found here: Hotwifenicole) as a way to share all of their experiences with the online world, and they’ve agreed to do an exclusive interview with us right here on The Cuckold Consultant. It’s truly fascinating (and educational) to hear the experiences of a couple who explores the hotwifing lifestyle in the free and unbound way that they do.

If you know anyone who doubts whether or not arrangements like this can work, show them this interview, because not only is it working for this couple, but its been an amazing experience for them.

The Interview

Q: How did you get started in the cuckolding lifestyle?

A: We started with a little bit of role play and some toys. During our playtime we mutually expressed a desire to invite others to join our bedroom activities. You could say we started as swingers, seeking out friends with benefits that go beyond a simple booty call. We quickly learned it was difficult to find the right chemistry with couples and we all know how difficult it is to find a single female. Single males always seemed to be available and we both agreed we had more fun with single males during meet and greets and activities (dinners, trips, drinks etc.)


Q: Does your wife have a long-standing lover or multiple lovers?

A: She has 3 “go to” guys that have been around for as long as I can remember. One was the guy we first started with (our first MFM over 9 years ago). Another is regular MFM partner and the 3rd was the first guy I was ok with her playing alone with (not that the others didn’t qualify). This one sparked her interest in playing alone. Since then she has been with the other regulars alone on many occasions.


Q: What are the 5 biggest challenges you would say face married couples with kids while living the lifestyle?

A: Time is the biggest issue. When the opportunity to play comes we generally both go out with respective partners, she has her beaus and I have a few single ladies I play with. You cant really find a babysitter that will stick around until 2 or 3 in the morning and you certainly do not want to explain your activities to family members. I think anyone who has children and finds some down time will tell you the last thing on their mind is having a go with another person.

Finding the energy has also been a bit of a struggle. We don’t just hope in the sack. Our meetings are full blown dates, dinner, drinks, conversation and lots of flirting and affection. Add in all the preparation that goes into an evening of fun and you almost lack the motivation to plan.

Nicole’s biggest struggle is coming to terms with the changes to her body since having a child. She is a bit self conscious seeing her beaus now. However, she has recently expressed interest in playing again.


Q: What advice would you have for someone if they were just getting started in the cuckolding or hotwifing lifestyle today?

A: If I could share a piece of advice with couples looking to explore the hotwife or MFM experience…I would tell all male halves to take 5 steps back and let your spouse choose her playthings. Allow her the time to pick and choose as she pleases. Give her time to get to know the guy. It will give the guy some time to get to know her.  If you pay attention to this courting process you’ll witness the desire both of them have; the tension that builds; the curiosity fade to action. This is what it should be about, not the visuals in your head.

Give it the time it needs. Eventually she will do for you as you ask. She will perform for you. She will bring what you want to see. But first, let her be comfortable with the idea of playing with others. Let her know you’re perfectly ok with it (but only if you really are).

Communication is key. Set your desires aside and listen to her. Let her do her own thing. It’s ok to express anything you’re not comfortable with. It’s perfectly ok to create rules and boundaries. It’s perfectly ok to predetermine the penalty for breaking those rules. Communication is the most important thing in the lifestyle. If you don’t have it, you’re relationship will not survive.


Q: If you had it to do all over again, would you still go into the cuckolding/hotwifing lifestyle, and would you do anything different?

A: We wouldn’t need a re-do. We’re confident we did it right the first time. Keep in mind it took 7 years for the both of us to feel comfortable playing alone. We paid attention when we were newbies and we got lucky with the guys, gals and most of the couples we have met along the way. We took our time with every new person along the way. And most importantly, we made new friends who are also now a part of our vanilla side. Neither of us ever talk about what could’ve, should’ve or would’ve been. We’re both very happy with the experience thus far. That’s not to say we never had a bad experience. It’s just saying we learned from every experience.


Q:What 5 tips, tricks, or hints could you give to couples who want to get into the lifestyle but think their kids would be an obstacle?

A: We don’t really have any advice to offer those with children. But, someday we will.


Q: Where are your go to sites for the best cuckold porn on the net?

A: We mostly prefer to see and connect with real couples and singles. Tumblr has been a great resource. One of our regulars wrote a book called Swingland (there’s a little bit of us in there.) I (Tony) will occasionally browse xhamster while Nicole is out on a date. But I prefer to make porn instead of watching it. (Ones of these days I’ll remember to hit record)


Q: What was it like in the beginning to first have your wife take steps to making your fantasy a reality?

A: There were a lot of mixed emotions. Sex (for pleasure) is still so frowned upon, you always wonder “what if someone we know finds out?”

You worry about STI’s and the potential danger of a lunatic or a drama queen.

You worry about your spouse. Maybe they won’t enjoy it. Or maybe they’ll feel different after. You worry that maybe you made a mistake going this far.

But we never worried about us. We knew we could turn it off if it went bad. We knew if we wanted more we could. We knew neither of us would judge. We knew we were having fun.

I never had mixed emotions about the security of our relationship.

And when it finally happened, we were like little kids, quiet but both snickering at our inside joke. We talked extensively about the experience. And we both know what we feel with every experience. I think that’s why we have been so successful with it.

I mostly appreciate the courting process. Watching the friendship grow. Sometimes that is more exciting than watching Nicole get intimate with another. Because I know just a few nights before, he was already doing that to her mind.


Q: What’s it like being a cuckold in real life as opposed to just getting off to cuckold porn on the internet?

A: With porn, when you’re done, you wipe clean and shut down. With it happening, when they’re done your fun is just getting started.


 Exclusively Nicole

Q:What was it like in the beginning to take the first steps to making this fantasy a reality?

A: I was really nervous. Worried what it might do to us after. I worried that Tony would see me differently. The idea in fantasy sounded great, but reality seemed too much. I think the very next morning after we mutually agreed it was something we should at least try once, I immediately signed up on a swinger site. I was a bit eager, but not as eager as Tony (I found that out later.)

When it finally happened, it happened rather quickly. Sure, there were weeks of chats and several flakes. But we went for it immediately after a brief meet and greet. I was so nervous, but I just let myself go. And when I did, we’ll let’s just say it was much better than fantasy.


Q: Did the idea of being a hotwife or cuckoldress appeal to you when you first heard of it? If not, what made you open your mind to it?

A: When we finally entertained the idea of playing alone I met a new guy. Very different from the others. There is a significant age gap between Tony and I. This guy is older than Tony. He expressed his desires to be with me. Beyond sexting, he, in my mind already had me. Tony took notice and suggested our first time be alone. I’ll never forget that night. And the only thing Tony knows from that night is what he heard behind closed doors.  That feeling excited me. It still does.

That feeling of knowing other guys who desire you, get to have their way with you is very titillating. The availability, the frequency, is all up to you. Knowing that when I’m leaving all dolled up and sexy, Tony would give anything to have me before I go. I come home all used up, hair a mess, makeup worn-out, with the smell of another man still strong, Tony wants me more than before I left. The sex from Tony after I have already been fucked is absolutely amazing. Yes I feel naughty doing it. But it’s sooooo much fun!

I'd like to thank HotwifeNicole and her silver fox of a husband Tony for taking time out of their busy lives to answer these questions for us. If you haven't already, check out their awesome Tumblr here:

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  • Kelly

    Reply Reply December 22, 2017

    My Husband of 5 years just loves the Smell of my lover on me and the Shine in my eyes after Ive had a Good long Fucking from my lover Tommy. Tommy makes me feel like me feel and act like a Real Woman when hes Deep in me, not like my husband Butch. He has the right to Take me anytime he wants, at 3.Am or 3 pm. Butch only gets to Clean me up after Tommy is done with me Now. And that’s the way it should be for all Cuckolds.

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