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An Exclusive Interview – Meet HotwifeSam 5/5 (1)

Can you still lead a successful hotwife fantasy if it starts out as an affair? HotwifeSam and her husband are here to share in an exclusive interview with us how they went from affair to having a fulfilling FLR as a hotwife couple. Their story is below.

 

The Interview

Q: How did you get started in the hotwifing lifestyle?

A: I had an affair with an ex-boyfriend about three years into our marriage. I tried desperately to keep it a secret, but my husband found out, and then responded in way that I hadn’t imagined. I thought he would leave me, and I was desperate for that not to happen, but instead of being hurt, he told me that he loved me as much as he ever had and that he wanted me to have whatever I needed. [He said] he was turned on by the whole thing. Trusting him, his feelings and his honesty, was probably the hardest part [for me]. It took us a while to work through.

 

Q: Do you have a long-standing lover or multiple lovers?

A: I still see my ex when he’s in town, but he doesn’t live anywhere near us unfortunately. I don’t play very often, but I also occasionally meet someone I have a connection to, maybe three or four times a year, and I’m free to enjoy myself.

 

Q: What are the 5 biggest challenges you would say face married couples while living the lifestyle?

A: 1) Trust.

2) Communication; being honest about what you want and what you are comfortable with,

3) The risk of finding a deeper connection or level of intimacy than you were expecting.

4) Keeping your “real” life and relationships and your “lifestyle”, separate,

5) Accepting and embracing each other’s desires and limits.

 

Q: What advice would you have for someone if they were just getting started in the cuckolding or hotwifing lifestyle today?

A: Slowly, slowly. Don’t find out about each other the way we did. It’s painful and damaging. Communicate your feelings clearly, but listen to what your partner is saying. Play with the fantasy. It’s more than enough for us sometimes to just go out and flirt with guys and then come home and be with each other. Small steps, and then constantly re-assess how it makes you feel. And don’t EVER do anything you aren’t comfortable with just because your partner wants you to.

 

Q: If you had it to do all over again, would you still go into the cuckolding/hotwifing lifestyle?

A: I would do anything to take back the lying and the cheating, but I don’t think either of us would swap what we have for a more vanilla relationship. We are more in love with each other than ever. Demanding that your partner be monogamous if they are not wired for it is about fear, not love.

 

Q: If you had to do it all over again, what would you do the same, and differently?

A: What hurt us at the start was a lack of communication about what we really desired and wanted from a relationship. I think most couples hide who they really are from each other to some extent. I think more open communication is the only thing we’d change, but I guess everyone could probably say something similar.

 

Q: What 5 tips, tricks, or hints could you give to the hotwives-to-be in couples who are looking to get into the hotwifing lifestyle?

A: 1) Flirt outrageously in front of your husband.

2) Put yourself in situations, clubs, live music, dancing etc, where there is an opportunity to flirt outrageously without expectation.

3) Expect to get rejected, but don’t fear it. Be bold. You know that there is already someone in your life who loves you, and if the man who catches your eye isn’t interested, it’s his loss, not yours.

4) Flirting with men online, with your husband watching or not, can be fun, but the world is full of creeps too.

5) If you have an ex who you still fancy, give him a call just to see how he’s doing.

(And I know this is 6) Make sexy stuff up and tease your partner, because it’s all about the two of you. Everyone else is just along for the ride.

 

Q: Where are your go to sites for the best cuckold porn on the net?

A: Xhamster and hotwife-slavery.tumblr.com  😀

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