An Exclusive Interview – Meet Hotwifebegins

If you could only read one interview on this site, I’d tell you to read this one. Why?

Because it portrays in the most realistic light possible what it’s actually like to live the hotwifing / cuckolding lifestyle.

Those of you who are already in the lifestyle will find quite a few things that resonate with your experiences, thoughts, and feelings on an almost scary “spot on” level. And those of you who haven’t yet indulged in the “forbidden/taboo” pleasures of exploring extra-marital relationship arrangements will learn quite a bit of “unspoken truths”.

I don’t want you to get the wrong idea though; they’re not bad truths or anything; they’re just real. For example, it’s real to worry about your wife’s safety when she goes to meet someone she met online, even if it’s in a public place. It’s real for a wife to feel guilty about spending time with her date when she could be spending that time with you and your children together. It’s real that the guy your hotwife is fucking in the hotel room might not be comfortable with the idea of her taking pictures to send you.

These are things that the Tumblr & Twitter memes you see floating around on the internet won’t tell you. By the same token, they’re also things that are pretty helpful to know, both for the fact that it shows you what to possibly expect if you haven’t been down this road yet, and to validate your experiences in a “Hey, I know what they’re talking about!” kind of way if you have.

Without further ado, I’d like to introduce the graciously and candidly open Tumblr couple Hotwifebegins. I hope you enjoy their interview!


The Interview

Q: How did you get started in the stag & vixen lifestyle?

A: Her – We started out swinging as a couple about 8 years ago. That started out from us talking about fantasies of having a threesome with another woman, but since that was next to impossible to find, we decided to play as a couple. We also had some threesomes with another guy a few times. Then we decided to try a polyamory/open marriage type of relationship, which didn’t go well at all. That combined with complicated life situations resulted in us taking a break off of it all for a few years.

About a year ago, he started mentioning how he thought it would be sexy for me to hook up with another guy. I didn’t believe him AT ALL at first. I wasn’t opposed to it, because I knew from our previous swinging experience how hot it could be, but it took some convincing for me to understand that he was serious about it. I would say it took a couple of months for me to seriously start looking for people to meet.

Him- Exactly what she said.


Q: You mentioned in one of your recent text posts that many mistakes were made and lessons learned. What kinds of mistakes did the two of you make, and what lessons did you learn from them?

A: Her – I am staying away from much younger guys.  As much of an ego boost as it is to have a guy be interested who is much younger, it has never worked out, I don’t know what the deal is, but I’ve been stood up by them, or they vanish into thin air.  So, I think I’m going to stick to the 35 and up crowd.

I also don’t know that this was really MY mistake, but one of the guys I met with was completely weirded out by me taking pics and videos and me sending them to my husband. I had put that into the open that it would happen that way, but I don’t know if he didn’t believe me or didn’t pay attention. So, we met up, and I gave him a blow job, and he immediately left afterwards, without even touching me. So, I make sure it’s REALLY clear what I am planning on doing now.

Another lesson that I am constantly working on is working on my story telling when I get back home. I am not the most talkative person in the world, and it is a learning process for me!  I am fine with taking pictures and video but putting it into words for whatever reason is difficult for me.

Him – Be patient! Sometimes you can get caught up in that adrenaline/libido rush that you think you need to have it all the time! Don’t get caught in that. I did. I would constantly talk about it and not really see that she didn’t want to talk about it. I had to, and still have to, learn to tone it back. A little bit anyway, I still sometimes get a bit over excited.

And what she says up there, completely. I wish there was an easy screening process lol. We are learning with each other as we go. Sometimes we don’t agree but we work it out.


Q: What kinds of things did you learn about regarding trust as you’ve taken your journey down this path?

A: Her – It took me awhile to actually trust that he meant he was for real about me becoming a hotwife.  Even after my first date, I was still convinced he was going to be angry at me for actually doing it. Once I realized that isn’t the case, it’s been amazing to know that I have the freedom that I have, and that he knows I am always coming back home to him after.

Him – I trust her completely and without hesitation. So I think if anything this has reaffirmed and strengthened my trust in her.


  • RebeccasOffice

    Reply Reply March 9, 2018

    I have to agree that this is the most common way. I started just the same but via the website and

  • jack hayes

    Reply Reply August 4, 2018

    i often wondered how you started your life sounds interesting i am not sure i would be happy if maryann had as many partners as you nbut i guess that would be up to her you seem to enjoy it

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