Just in case you didn’t already know, QOS is the acronym for “Queen Of Spades”, a name used to describe a white woman who enjoys sleeping exclusively with black men. There are slight variants/shades of meaning, but that’s essentially the gist of what it means.
The question as to why these white women prefer to sleep with black men has many answers, but our interviewee today describes her interracial predilection as stemming from “the color contrast, the taboo of it, the way it [stretches] me out…” Now that right there is just a hot, slutty answer. And a 100% genuine one too. How do I know?
Because she lives a fulfilling life as a mother, has a successful career, is happily married, and yet…she still has what can only be described as an insatiable thirst for BBC as evidenced by her consistent weekend interracial-sexcapades. A self-described “cumslut”, E The Real QOS was willing to give us a closer look into herself and her life.
So without further ado, I give you E The Real QOS (Twitter link removed due to her profile no longer existing.). P.S. At the end of this interview are some never-before-seen NSFW bonus pictures of Erica. So make sure you make it to the end ;-)
Q: I think the most pressing question that is on everyone’s mind is: do you know how awesome you are because you deadlift? What helps keep you motivated to continue to go to the gym and keep your body looking as fit as ever?
A: First off, thank you for interviewing me. I am still getting used to the idea that other people find interest in, and find pleasure, in what makes me cum.
And aww thank you so much. I don’t know if I would say I am awesome because I deadlift, but I do think it is awesome that I am comfortable lifting weights at a gym. So often women are intimidating by the weight section and all the “muscle heads,” but I love weights and the pump I get at the gym.
Although, I will say it is funny when I catch men, and sometimes women, staring at me using the mirrors. Motivation for me comes from always trying to make improvements to my figure, form, strength, and overall health. I want to be a sexy 60 year old too. ;-)
Q: How did you first get into the hotwifing lifestyle? How did it progress to what it is now?
A: It was hubby’s idea. He has always been into photographing me and showing me off. We started swinging years ago when we decided to go to a house party on Halloween. I figured it wasn’t a big threat since everyone dresses slutty on Halloween. It was a totally different experience; everyone was so nice and I didn’t get all the dirty looks from the ladies there. After that we kept looking for more parties and even swinger clubs to try.
One night at a swinger club we hooked up with a couple and the male had a BBC. When we left hubby and I realized the lust/love I had for the BBC. The color contrast, the taboo of it, the way it stretched me out… I was hooked and hubby loved watching me too. From there it just developed slowly from single males to gang bangs. Now I have become much more open in public, with the jewelry and the braless see-thru tops. I have always wanted a random guy to come up to me because of my anklet….one day it will happen. ;-)
We can’t wait to see what the future holds.
Q: A lot of couples struggle to find quality (or real) males as thirds/bulls. What advice do you have for couples to become a bit more successful in their searches?
A: Pay attention to the little things. For me honestly, I read their responses for grammar, tone, and overall attitude. If they seem genuinely happy/excited to be talking to me, it makes me feel better. Honestly we have lucked out and found high quality bulls and from there we have got new bulls from word of mouth. We get these awesome bulls and they are willing to bring their friends or at least recommended me.
Lifestyle sites are also great because the expectations for all involved are more clearly laid out, plus there are normally testimonials. Lifestyle/ swinger clubs allow you to meet up and see what they are all about without any awkwardness.
I don’t hook up just to hook up, so I want everyone to really enjoy themselves and for the footage to be real. If I get hit up by someone with a one liner, like “bitch, you want this dick?” I am immediately turned off. I want someone that can hold a conversation as well. I don’t just hook up with anyone just because he has a big dick. Of course that is just me, other girls are turned on by that stuff and enjoy hooking up with everyone. That’s what makes this fun, everyone has their own ideas of sexy.
I can’t explain how turned on I get when I go back and watch videos from past encounters. The sexiness to me is the genuine pleasure that is happening, so I don’t want to ever compromise that. I want my bulls to be someone that I enjoy talking to over a cocktail at the bar (scantly dressed of course. :-* ) I would estimate that we are still in regular contact with 90% of past hook ups.
Q: What boundaries do you have regarding exploring this lifestyle, and why? Do you think those boundaries will ever change?
A: Pleasure, that is my main boundary. I do what feels good to me and my bulls. There are many things that I haven’t tried though. I think I am hesitant on certain things just because they don’t appeal to me. For example, I am not into hardcore bondage, although I am totally fine with a little hand to hand restraint. I don’t do rape scenarios because that is something where I would have to fake pleasure.
I have really pushed my boundaries in the past 2 years and found that out there are things I love that surprised me. Anal sex being a prefect example… I think it feels so amazing feeling a hard cock throb in my ass. I also love to milk the prostate. These were things that were on my “no-no” list for years, but now I find super pleasurable. So I can say that my boundaries will definitely change in the future. I say I want to still be enjoying sex at 90 so I have time to try new things.
Q: Do either you or your husband ever have any moments of doubt regarding your exploration of your sexual desires? If not, what is it about your relationship that allows you to be as secure as you are about the choices you make as it pertains to the way you choose to live your life?
A: I would say there isn’t doubt but there is a lot of discussion beforehand. We have an awesome relationship and communicate constantly. I would say hubby is better at expressing his opinions then I am; sometimes it takes me a while to be able to explain my thoughts or feelings. We are truly best friends that love, respect, and appreciate each other. I absolutely love my husband and think he is super sexy, and I know he feels the same about me. After nearly 15 years of marriage we have continued to learn how to communicate and have an open relationship.
Q: You mention you have a professional job. Do you ever worry someone you know or work with might recognize you, or does the idea turn you on at all? (Has anyone ever recognized you before, and if so, what was that like?)
A: Haha… that is definitely a concern. It is concerns me because if the person that identified me told everyone that I work with, it would be nearly impossible for me to do my job. The thought of being out of town and being recognized is a turn on though. I would love to meet some of my fans, have a conversation, and see where it leads. :-)
As far as I know I have not been identified; however, I did have a close call with someone at my work once. They asked if I worked at a specific location that I had previously worked at, so I responded with no.
Q: As a mother of two, how do you balance living this relationship while maintaining a family?
A: Caffeine. :-) Obviously our kids and family come first. So we schedule “adult play days” around our kids sports events and practices. Most week days, it’s all about the kids; although, every 2-3 weeks I have a bull meet for an afternoon “sexual workout.” We also make it a point to do something fun with the kids in between our adult weekends. If all goes according to plan, there will be at least 2 bulls to play with.
Q: You obviously love living this lifestyle and believe that exploring it isn’t bad for your relationship. What would you say to people out there who do think exploring these kinds of arrangements are unhealthy for relationships?
A: To each their own. I know that our lifestyle is taboo to most, but that’s part of what makes it exciting. The most important part for me is making sure that both partners are ready to explore new things. Once you’re ready start slow and be ready for the excitement… once you get the shy ones (formerly me :-) ) started, watch out.
I understand the concern that it could be unhealthy, but to me it is doing the exploration process together that makes you grow in your relationship. I think hubby and I have gotten closer as a result of exploring our sexual desires. I am able to talk about things that I would have never even said before and be completely open about it. As a wife, I am more confident in myself sexually and as an overall person.
Q: Would you describe all this now as more of a need that you’re satisfying or is it more of a want that you simply like to explore every now and again?
A: It’s a want… I love exploring new things and the feeling of having my holes filled with cum. I have an amazing sex life as a result of exploring new things, but I don’t think I need it. It’s like ice cream… I really want it, I love the feeling I get when I get it, and I’m overall happy after getting it; however, I do not need to have it. It’s definitely more of a weekly desire, although more would be better.
Q: What are 2-3 of the sluttiest things you’ve ever done?
A: I think most things I do are pretty slutty ;-) I have been fucked in a stairwell as our vanilla friends were in the hotel room awaiting our arrival. It was so exciting and sexy, only bad part is we didn’t film it. I love grabbing a big hard black cock and covering it with my saliva, then slapping my face with it. That is just sexy.
One day I had a late afternoon gangbang with 5 BBCs. I was stretched and filled up… it was awesome. After, it was time for dinner. I took a quick shower threw on a see-thru dress and went to a restaurant. While eating we were approached by a couple we knew from the lifestyle. They had a place near by and a lot of bulls coming over for a party and they invited us. We went over and I ended up in the room with a line of guys taking turns as hubby filmed… that was a sexy night.
Q: What’s it like to be a working professional and mother while also being a self-proclaimed cumslut who enjoys getting filled with multiple BBC’s on the weekend? What makes it enjoyable, what is the contrast between the two/three sides of your life like?
A: All the various aspects of my life bring me so much joy/pleasure. I adore being a mother to my beautiful children. It brings a joy that I cannot get from anything else. Don’t get me wrong, I get joy from other things but it’s not the same as a hug or a “Love you mom” from my kids.
Being a professional in the work world is satisfying as I get to be a positive influence to those around me. I get to show young adults/children that being a strong capable women is a good thing. I also show that you can be happily married in this day and age. Cumslut is the area, unlike the others, in terms of rewards. Like I said, I love being filled with cum. It’s just a pleasure that is purely physical. I have a handful of bulls that always meet me for a cocktail before our escapades, and I truly enjoy their conversations. So this side offers physical pleasure as well as friendship and great conversation.
I’d like to thank Erica for taking the time to do this interview with us. It’s also not only arousing but awesome as well to see a woman be as free and uninhibited as she is about embracing and exploring her sexuality.
P.S. Here are those never-before-seen NSFW pictures I promised!