About 10 months ago, the Cuckold Chat VIP couple, sub2myGoddess, did an interview with us sharing the details of their then newly developing D/s Hotwife & cuckold relationship. Today, I bring you an update on how things have been going for them since the last time they gave us a peek into their life.
I have to say, it always excites me to see couples who have their stuff together enough to successfully navigate this lifestyle because it’s not easy. Don’t get me wrong, you’re not walking a tightrope, but you have to be smart and your relationship has to be solid. For those of you who want to know what can happen when you explore the lifestyle together, read on. You’re bound to get jealous. Oh and the pics at the end of the interview…some of the best I’ve seen.
Q: So what have you two been up to in the last few months? Has your wife been focusing on one lover, or multiple? On how many separate occasions over the last few months since we last talked would you say she’s slept with someone else?
A: Him: We have always chosen a quality over quantity approach, but that has been reinforced since goddess met her current boyfriend last September. She has been with at least 3 other men since we last talked, but over the last few months it has been primarily her regular boyfriend. She sees him a minimum of 1-2 times a week. I travel often for work and he will stay over while I am out of town, and when I am not traveling she will choose between going to his place or having me in the guest room while he comes over to spend a night with her. It is so erotic to get text messages while I am traveling that she is with her Bull, or how excited she is to see him. Even better when he will send me messages including some pics to tease me about what they are up to while I am away and assuring me that she is in good hands. She still has her HotWife tendencies and loves to tease and flirt when she sees other hot guys. We also still keep in touch with her select BBC bulls and connect when we are traveling in their area. Life continues and that includes a mix of work, family, travel and play, but the HotWife life continues to work for us.
Her: If he had this travel schedule and didn’t allow me to play with others, I would have cheated by now. I love that I don’t have to - and can share all the gritty details with my cuck. Beyond just needing a bigger bull in the bedroom, I love the sinfulness of being the goddess in the relationship. It’s nice to be able to go out for a girls' night and flirt openly and even pick up a hot guy from time to time! Nothing to hide and I’m so proud to be a HotWife.
Q: What did being submissive mean to you when you first entered into this kind of dynamic with your wife, and how has your understanding of that concept changed/deepened/evolved over time?
A: Him: Submissive to me meant doing what she says. But it’s more than that. I have grown to understand that her needs come first. That it is my role to think of her needs and desires and try to be proactive to satisfy those in creative ways even without being told. It is also about giving her control and accepting whatever that may bring. Whether being locked in my cock cage or made to do chores around the house in panties or a maid’s outfit, or accept that she wants to brag to her girlfriends that I will do anything she says while she goes out with other men. It has been an interesting journey of discovery and we are both surprised by how much the kinks and twists turn us both on!
Her: I am not naturally a Domme but it is nice to have a willing submissive husband to make me feel sexy, desired and empowered. To me, it means that my needs come first, but also that he gets satisfaction from that as well. And beyond that, watching him suck big bull cock deep down his throat is an ultimate turn-on and feeds my desires for more. The biggest fantasy I have and have had is for him to eat my bull’s loads out of my pussy while I tell him he’s so deserving of the clean-up. So hot!
Q: Have your sexual and/or emotional feelings for your husband changed over the last few months? If so, how and why do you think this is/isn’t?
A: Her: We are still very much in love. He is my soulmate and best friend, but I long for variety, the excitement of a new/different sexual partner and being spoiled for a “night on the town” - as well as a bigger size of course. Emotionally, I would say that we are stronger and more connected than ever. I wouldn’t say that my sexual feelings have changed, but I have come to terms and can be honest with myself that I need more than my sissy hubby can give me, and he will never fully satisfy me sexually. At the same time, he pleases me more than anyone could by accepting his place and embracing me as his HotWife who can be with any man I desire. That freedom is so empowering and exhilarating, and it takes a strong man to give that to his wife. I am more in love with him today that when we were married, but I am also more confident and happy that I can enjoy a fulfilling sex life and enjoy the pleasures of other hung men knowing that my husband will always be there to love me, cuddle me and take care of my other needs. He will just never please me sexually. Giving me that control means everything.
Q: You mentioned balancing the lifestyle is one of the most challenging things to navigate while exploring it. Has this challenge reared its head at all recently? If so, how? What did you do to overcome it? If it hasn’t, what have you been doing right that has kept you from encountering it?
A: Him: This remains very important to us. We have made this a priority and feel this allows us to continue to enjoy the lifestyle we do. My work life is busier than ever and this lifestyle allows us to connect even while I am on the road by allowing her to spend time with lovers and share all the details with me. In a way, it makes work travel less of a negative and something she almost looks forward to so she can have some alone time with her boyfriend. This is a mix of emotions and can be humiliating knowing your wife is happy at home with another man, but the erotic thrill charges us immensely. Those times we are together we take the time to focus on us.
Her: I do have to admit, I mark his travel in my calendar and schedule others into those slots with excitement. I love telling him what’s happening for me that week, who I’m going to be with, and lately, sending him hot texts, audios, pictures and videos of my sexual escapades while he’s away - and teasing him that I don’t miss him one bit. However, he is and will always be the best at spooning me. We can fill in the gaps with our lifestyle to keep things fun and interesting, and connect on a deeper level when we are together. When not working and playing I also find time to stay active, hit the gym or practice yoga, coffee chats with friends and even some girls' nights out. It’s all about balance in all aspects of life.
Q: What are three new lessons you’ve learned over the past few months?
A: 1) We do not need to live up to anyone else’s expectations. There is no rulebook to follow. As long as we are authentic to ourselves we will live our best life and continue to explore and discover new pleasures and deeper levels in our relationship.
You cannot over-communicate. Honesty is key down to the smallest details. Sometimes not telling 100% of the story can create hurt feelings. Honesty and communication continue to be key to our relationship and happiness as a cuck and HotWife.
We are not alone in this; there are plenty of other kinky couples, cucks and HotWives out there! We would like to connect and network more with other similar couples and singles.
Q: Do you yet have any regrets about having gone down this path? If not, do you find your desires for it even stronger now? Why?
A: We cannot imagine not having an open relationship at this point in our lives. Our marriage comes first, but we are both happier satisfying our kinks and desires in this way. And there’s something exciting about being different and sharing our stories with curious friends - who long for what we have and are changing their theories on love and relationships based on what we’ve achieved together. We even have her best friend on a Goddess, Dom and Sissy chat to give him some tasks to show his devotion to his Goddess.
There is something very special about having someone in life to trust and share such an intimate secret with. That said, there are always lingering concerns about what society thinks - we make every effort to push those fears and insecurities aside.
Q: Last time we spoke, you had had your first overnight experience. Have you had any since? If not, why not? If so, give us some details?
A: Many. I have discovered that I really enjoy overnights with my regular boyfriend so that spontaneity can continue longer and I can start the next day with morning sex. Morning sex always puts me in a great mood and is the best way to set myself up for success! Pics, videos and audio of me taking a much bigger cock while voicing how much better it is than my sissy hubby has made him go wild and feel involved. There are obviously emotions that become involved with an overnight partner, but the benefit/reward has been well worth it. And it makes me feel all the more slutty and naughty.
Q: How would you best articulate the appeal of being denied? Isn’t the point of being aroused/hard that you eventually orgasm? How is it fun if you don’t? How would she best articulate the appeal of denying?
A: Him: The appeal of being denied for me is giving her control. She is very generous with allowing me to orgasm with permission and/or supervision, but how I achieve that is very much controlled by my goddess. She is also able to give me tasks and ways to earn a reward which can include orgasm with extra attention from her. Sometimes chastity is involved, especially when she is out on a date or when we are out with her friends. The ultimate denial she has instilled is that I do not deserve her goddess pussy because I am not capable of pleasing her sexually. But, I can give her the ultimate satisfaction by supporting her in finding and being with superior men.
Her: I’m still exploring the balance of allowance and denial that feels natural but also a bit restrictive. Chastity has been fun to play with - especially when I’m out on the town. His little sissy clit can’t satisfy me, so if I cannot be with a superior bull then it can be fun to tease and deny him a little bit. We still get each other off in other ways though. His favorite way to cum is to have me “talk dirty” and tell him stories of how I’ll go to the bars and pick up boy toys, bring them home and get on my knees to worship their larger cock trophies. How pathetic.
Q: What are 3 of the biggest myths/misconceptions about being a sissy?
A: 1) Subs/Sissys are weak.
- It takes confidence and trust to incorporate this successfully into a healthy relationship.
2) Sissys are secretly gay/bi
- While bi play can be incorporated into the sissy dynamic, it is not required and should not be assumed. We enjoy some bi play, but never expected it.
3) Being a Sissy is 100% of who you are
- This is a kink and a small component of everyday life. It is part of what we choose to explore and experience together behind closed doors.
Q: When did you first realize being a sissy appealed to you? For her: were you concerned his desire to be treated like a sissy would affect your feelings for him? Has it ever?
A: Him: It was a slow transition and almost snuck up on me. It started with some gentle teasing and her sometimes lovingly referring to me as her “little sissy”. That opened the door to her suggesting that I wear panties while doing chores around the house or while she was being fucked by a “real man”. In a way, it is an easier way for me to embrace being less endowed than the other men she prefers to fuck and allows me to fill a special role for my goddess without competing with her bulls.
Her: He is My sissy and will do anything for my pleasure and happiness. Yet sure, I had concerns that if he couldn’t please me in bed, would that bleed into other aspects. As mentioned, I believe our love is stronger, and I’m the benefactor who gets to have all a wife needs. The best part about having a sissy hubby is that he supports and encourages me fucking other men. I have even started to open up to some of my closest girlfriends and brag about me having a submissive “sissy” hubby who will do anything I want and give me anything I desire. So far the response has been very positive and accepting and if anything - envious.
I want to thank sub2myGoddess for taking the time to do this second interview with us. I also want to congratulate them for being so freakin' awesome and enjoying this lifestyle to the max. Clearly they’ve found what works for them—and THAT is what this lifestyle is about: finding what works for you, and doing it in your own way, in your own time.
If you haven’t already, you need to get yourself over to Cuckold Chat because sub2myGoddess is there quite a bit posting, sharing, and looking to meet new people!
And as promised, here are those amazing proof pics they took: