So, first off, let me tell you that the fact your wife already knows about your fantasy puts you at an advantage. A lot of men don't even have the courage to bring their fantasy up to their wife, but you did. That puts you a step ahead of the game because your wife has had a bit of time to become accustomed to the fact that you have this kind of desire. That might sound like a small thing, but it’s not.
So, first off, let me tell you that you're not alone in why you haven't brought your fantasy up to your wife yet. It can be tricky and oftentimes result in a lack of success if you decide to bring it up on your own without first doing the right things. You won't have to dig yourself out of a hole like many others. This puts you at an advantage.
It's also a very good sign that your wife is at least willing to play along mentally/roleplay your fantasy. Why? Because it shows us she has a part inside her that finds the idea intriguing. If this weren't the case, she obviously wouldn't be willing to play along with it at all and we would have to create the desire inside her, which although possible, is a much more difficult road.
The objections a wife gives her husband about this fantasy can fall into one of six classes. I go into these classes in more details in The Cuckold's Compass Objection Guide, so for now I'll mention the most important things you'll want to know.
In your case, as is the case with many other men, the objections your wife has given you are in a class I refer to as Understanding-Gap Objections. They have their roots in your wife not understanding why this fantasy appeals to you and where it comes from.
You see, people will always resist what they don’t understand, and most wives give this objection because they don't have a good grasp on the origin and appeal of this fantasy to their husband beyond simply knowing they think it's "hot". As long as this remains the case, she will never be able to entertain your fantasy as a reality.
I can also tell you that another reason a wife will give her husband Understanding-Gap objections is because she hasn’t made an emotional connection to your fantasy yet. But we'll get to that.
Some of the objections your wife gave you fall in the Logistical and/or Ex Post Facto classes. Here's what is most important about these types of objections: every one of them contains a problem that your wife is worried about either now or is worrying about coming up in the future. The good thing about this is that each and every single one of those problems is solvable, no matter how complex or insurmountable they might seem to her (or you). How can I be so sure?
It's what I do for a living, and what I have been doing for a very long time now. No matter what future or present logistical or ex post facto problems your wife is worried about and is saying stand in the way of making this happen, there are ways to solve them. And once we satisfy/address her worries about those problems in the right way, you'll begin to see her resistance melt away and her desire increase. This even goes for those in situations where the wife won't fantasize/roleplay about this in bed. Once you learn how to address her logistical and/or ex post facto worries in the right way, you'll begin to see your wife open up to talking about your fantasy in bed.
Let's see what other advantages you have by moving on to the next section.
So, the fact that you don't want this to be something you explore on a frequent basis is a good thing. Many men want it to be an all-the-time dynamic. And although wanting it to be an all-the-time thing isn't the end of the world, it usually makes the wife a little more resistant to the idea.
So, the fact that you want this to be something you explore on a more frequent basis can
make your wife a bit more resistant to exploring this in reality.
It's a very intimidating thought for her to think of doing this once, let alone multiple times on a more frequent basis. That said, I'm not saying it's too difficult to be done. I'm simply saying it'll take a little more work on your part to get her to come around.
The fact that you're willing to help her find a man is a good thing, as long as your wife isn't saying she would want to be in charge of all of this without your input. Helping her with some of these "logistical" issues can help her feel more comfortable throughout the process.
The fact that you'd prefer your wife to find a man on her own without your help can be a good thing—if she has enough confidence to do so, or if she is the type that prefers to be in charge of things on her own without your input. Some couples have problems because the husband wants to be too involved to the point where the wife experiences it as controlling or non-spontaneous, both of which are things that don't resonate with most women. If that's the case with your situation, there are things we can do to remedy it.
Let's move on to the next section where we'll find out more about your fantasy type and what kind of cuckold (or hotwife husband) you are!
We're going to take a look at the following areas: jealousy, submission, humiliation, denial, and sexual incompetence. You can be high, middle of the road, or low in any or all of these areas. There are no right answers. Your selections will help determine what fantasy type you fall into and what kind of stag/hotwife husband/cuckold you are.
Based on your answers, you desire to be more of a Stag/Hotwife husband than a traditional cuckold.
Based on your answers, you desire to be more of a traditional Cuckold than a Stag/Hotwife Husband. I'll go into more detail about this at a later time.
Perhaps more important to know is that the level of "kink" regarding your fantasy type is a bit higher/more extreme than other fantasy types which means there will be a little more for your wife to get used to. However, as long as you present what are known as the "meta-reasons" behind these kinks in the right way to your wife, she'll be able to get behind them and want to satisfy them.
Perhaps more important to know is the good news about the level of "kink" regarding your fantasy. Your level of "kink" isn't as extreme as other fantasy types, which means there will be less for your wife to get used to or accept. This is a good thing because you'll have less obstacles to navigate when we restructure how you approach your wife about all this.
And now for the last section, which will tell you what auxiliary factors you have working in your advantage. These will be some of the most important factors you can have working in your favor.
Your Strength & Connection Score: One of the most important factors in getting your wife on board with your fantasy is the strength of your relationship's intimacy bond. Historically speaking, clients with a score similar to yours have a much better success rate because the strength of your relationship connection goes a long way here, not to mention a strong intimacy bond is something you definitely want before exploring fantasies that go “outside” your relationship.
Your Strength & Connection Score: One of the most important factors in getting your wife on board with your fantasy is the strength of your relationship's intimacy bond. You scored a bit low in this area, so in order to get your wife on board, we'll need to help you work on strengthening that intimacy bond as part of your plan.
Now after reading that, it’s not uncommon for many men to think something like, “Oh ok. I’ll just work on showing her I love her more, be a bit more romantic and pay attention to her emotionally more, etc. I can do this, I know what to do.” The thing to realize though is that it’s not that simple. What we think as men would strengthen our intimacy bonds with our wives aren’t the same things our wives are actually looking for.
Fortunately, working as a marriage counselor for as many years as I did is what has allowed me to have developed an easy-to-follow “blueprint” for how to strengthen your intimacy bond in the exact ways I’m talking about. The difference between going about this as I lay things out for you versus doing it on your own is, for many guys, the razor’s edge between success and failure. But more on that later.
Your Sex Life Score: Your input indicates you have a pretty solid sexual connection with your wife. That's important because it speaks to a solid underlying intimate connection, which makes most women feel more comfortable about pursuing something outside of the relationship.
Your Sex Life Score: All women, including your wife, whether they express it or not have a deep yearning to be sexually satisfied on deep levels. Your score indicates your sex life has room for improvement which means that a part of your wife wants to be more sexually satisfied. We can use that to your advantage.
Your Wife's Sexual Openness Score: Your wife has also shown above-average potential to be sexually openminded to experimenting with new ideas. This is important because openmindedness in your woman is a pre-cursor to being able to make your fantasy happen. If you didn't already have this going for you, your path would be a bit more difficult/complicated.
Your Wife's Sexual Openness Score: Your wife has also shown the potential to be fairly sexually openminded to experimenting with new ideas. This is important because openmindedness in your woman is a pre-cursor to being able to make your fantasy happen. If you didn't already have this going for you, your path would be a bit more difficult/complicated.
Your Wife's Sexual Openness Score: Your wife has also shown the potential to at least be a little sexually openminded to experimenting with new ideas. This is important because openmindedness in your woman is a pre-cursor to being able to make your fantasy happen. If she was any less open-minded than you indicated, your path would be a bit more difficult/complicated.
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