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Do You Want To Expose Your Wife? 4.8/5 (21)

If you’ve been in Cuckold Chat, then you’re more than likely familiar with the terminology of “exposing” your wife or with men saying, “I want to expose my wife”. Just in case you’re not though, exposing your wife entails showing her in all her naked glory to others. It’s a sexual practice or fantasy that otherwise goes by the name of candaulism. (Note: the label wife can be used interchangeably with the label girlfriend.)

The degree of “exposure” in candaulism can range from relatively innocent, where a person shares clothed or semi-nude pictures of his wife with others, all the way to shockingly extreme, where a person shares hardcore pornographic pictures of his wife complete with her personal information such as full name, date of birth, location, etc. (the type which cuckold chat expressly prohibits).

Now the first thing that goes through most (“normal”) people’s heads after reading that sentence is something along the lines of, “Why would anyone ever want to post their wife nude on the internet, especially with her personal information? That’s terrible/dangerous/sick/wrong/insert-judgmental-condemnation-here!!” Fair question indeed. This article is going to be the first of it’s kind to explain the often-misunderstood and harshly-judged practice/fantasy of exposing one’s wife. By the time you reach the end of this article, it is my hope that regardless of whether or not you agree/condone or judge/condemn this practice/fantasy, you will at least have a far better understanding of why it’s so prevalent. Let’s begin, shall we?

 

The Science Of Sperm Competition

Instead of jumping right in and trying to tackle the more extreme shades of exposing one’s wife, we first need to examine the more innocent shades, the shades where a man perhaps asks his wife to pose for him in the new lingerie he just bought her so he can snap some sexy boudoir photos. Most people can understand things up to that point; it’s when the husband wants to show those photos to others that this starts to break down for people.

Note: the question I’m going to answer here isn’t going to be a moral/ethical one, but rather a philosophical one which takes the form of why/how this could turn someone on.

Getting right down to it, the explanation is actually a pretty simple one. It has to do with the fact that men are hardwired to respond with sexual arousal to the sight or thought of their female partner being desired by other men. This is due to a “sperm competition” wiring men have inside them thanks to evolution. Before I explain sperm competition or address any objections you might have, let me just give you some scientific evidence to support this claim. Below is an excerpt from a research paper from the scientific journal Review Of General Psychology.

"Pound (2002) hypothesized that men...should be more aroused by pornography incorporating cues of sperm competition than by comparable material in which such cues are absent. Content analyses of pornographic images on World Wide Web sites and of commercial "adult" video releases revealed that depictions of sexual activity involving a female and multiple males are more prevalent than those involving a male and multiple females, indicating that the former category maybe preferred by men.

"In addition, an online survey of self-reported preferences and an online preference study that unobtrusively assessed image selection behavior yielded corroborative results. Pound argued that the most parsimonious explanation for such results is that male arousal in response to visual cues of sperm competition risk reflects the functioning of psychological mechanisms that would have motivated adaptive patterns of copulatory behavior in ancestral males exposed to evidence of female promiscuity." (Shackelford, Pound, & Goetz. "Psychological and Physiological Adaptations to Sperm Competition In Humans". Review of General Psychology 2005, Vol. 9, No. 3, 228–248)

 

What Does This Mean?

Well first of all, it means that porn featuring one woman with multiple men is more prevalent than porn featuring one man with multiple women.

Alone, this doesn’t say too much. But, it’s not alone. It’s corroborated by the fact that most men are reporting they prefer to select (and indeed have been objectively observed to select) porn featuring one woman with multiple men over porn featuring one man with multiple woman.

The researchers go on to explain this by saying it was evolutionarily advantageous for males to become sexually aroused by female promiscuity. To be clear, female promiscuity is defined as “the practice of having sex frequently with different partners or being indiscriminate in the choice of sexual partners.” So, why was it evolutionarily advantageous for men to respond with sexual arousal towards female promiscuity?

Well, let’s imagine you’re back in hunter-gatherer days and you stumbled upon your female partner having sex with another man. If you did not respond with sexual arousal at this sight, the odds would be in the favor of the other man impregnating your female partner, thereby significantly increasing the odds that your genes will be unapologetically weeded out of existence. This would be the case because the other man’s sperm would be the only sperm inside your female partner.

But, if you responded with sexual arousal at the sight of your female partner having sex with another man (aka engaging in promiscuous behavior), and you then have sex with her after the other man is done, you will be “tossing your hat (sperm)” in the ring and increase the chances this your genes will be passed on. Sexual arousal at the sight of your woman having sex with someone else was therefore evolutionarily advantageous when it came to passing your genes on.

This sexual arousal response, otherwise known as the “sperm competition” wiring, was thus passed on via reproduction, and that’s why most men have it. We are the result of millions of years of evolution.

If you’re wondering about where the construct of jealousy fits into all this, the feeling of jealousy is more of a psychological one which has it’s roots in fear and insecurity. Biology and sexual arousal responses work on a deeper level though, so thus it’s possible for a man to still feel jealousy and arousal at the same time as regards the idea of his wife being promiscuous. In cases where the man claims he doesn’t feel any kind of sexual arousal at the thought of his female partner being promiscuous, he’s either lying, or his insecurity and fear are so strong that they prevent him from being able to identify said arousal since it’s hidden (not absent) deep beneath the overbearing jealous and insecure feelings he has.

3 Comments

  • jack hayes

    Reply Reply November 11, 2018

    its true i know i like to see other men admire my wifes body she is 34 b they stick out no sag she keeps her pussy shaved slim waist big butt i am glad she likes sex with oyhers particularlu she prefers black men i like to watch them i sometimes get them hard for her if there is more then one she has had sex with 6 in a row i clean her up after sex we usually have sex after

  • Mark

    Reply Reply November 11, 2018

    is there any material which tells why a wife is willing to do more sexual acts such as anal with lovers but not with their husband

  • Richard

    Reply Reply November 18, 2018

    yes,its nice to watch my wife make someone hard and get him soft inside her.
    the pleasure to clean her great, really nice.

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